When was the last time you really stepped out and explored one of your “crazy” ideas. Maybe you want to start a business, write a book, do something in fashion or entertainment. What’s stopping you? I have had several mentees lately talk through why they are not following their passions. The most consistent responses are: “it’s not realistic,” “I’m too busy,” “it’s not a real job.”
When you really think about these reasons, it all boils down to them not being comfortable and maybe even feeling like they will not be accepted if they change direction. In a previous blog I talked about how to overcome some of the fears. Today we are going to talk about removing the Why Not. So first things first. What’s the worst thing that can happen if you don’t try? Unless it’s jumping off a plane with no parachute then really it’s something better than death. If the issue is that your idea is outside the norm, then really it’s more about you deciding to be your whole authentic self versus trying to please others. Second, what’s a real job anyway??? In today’s day and age, a real job is anything you want it to be. It might be in a corporate role but more and more people are paving their own way, thriving and dare I say making a good living following their passions. Finally, ask yourself, if you executed on your idea or passion, how would you feel? Happier? Fulfilled? Whole? That is they key question and what should really drive your decision. Your fulfillment is not selfish, it benefits you and let’s you lead a full life. It benefits those around you because you will be happier and great to hang out with! So, get out there and LEAD your life. When you do, others will follow. P.s. don’t worry about the haters. That’s their karma, not yours to deal with.
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Paula
7/24/2020 11:05:25 pm
As a single mom, I made the majority of my career choices around all of my responsibilities to others. Now that my children are grown, I’m only now discovering what makes me tick. My advice to others is to discover what makes you tick and take small baby steps along the way toward your goal. You don’t have to be drastic about moving in a new direction if the timing isn’t right. Just don’t parking lot and wait until you’re in your 50’s.
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Delpha D
7/24/2020 11:05:50 pm
So true Paula. And the journey of self discovery is amazing!
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Jill Treadwell
7/24/2020 11:06:32 pm
Paula my decisions and choices were always dictated by life’s circumstances. Unlike you I didn’t have children but being widowed twice at a young age I was thankful to have my job so I dug in and have stayed there for over 25 years. I love my job and my co-workers are like family. I guess I’ve never really thought of doing anything different. The stability the job has given me is critical. I stay ready for the next potential tragedy and would be afraid not to have the stability. Del is making me think though! Maybe it doesn’t have to be work related. Maybe it’s in addition. Baby steps like you say. Thanks!
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